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WHERE in the FRESH HECK have I BEEN?!

HEY HEY HEY PARTY PEOPLE!

It’s me, your fearless leader. It is now an entirely different year than it was since the last time we spoke. We have moved through three different Zodiac windows (it’s now the AGE OF AQUARIUS, for reference). In short, it’s been a long ass time, and I’m going to offer an explanation for that.

Blogtober was a lot of fun, but it was also a ton of pressure for me as a new blogger to try to figure out the entire world while embarking on this giant project while ALSO making my way through my very first full semester of my accelerated graduate program. I took on too much. I bit off more than I could chew. This will surprise literally no one.

And usually, it’s fine. I’m an ambitious person. I like being busy. I work full time, I go to grad school full time, and I’m still trying to cram time in for things like fitness and learning new languages and reading books. It’s just who I am. That being said, I started this blog to be a stress-free, creative outlet that I could use to just create and let loose. Blogtober turned this blog into the opposite of that; I was feeling pressured to just pump out content as fast as I could, regardless of whether I really wanted to write about it that day or whether I thought it was as great as it could be.

So I neeed a step back, and what I thought was going to be a teeny step became a BIG step. But honestly, now that I’m getting into the swing of things again, I really missed it. And so here I am.

I’m going to do a lot of revamping, redesigning, reorganizing. I’m going to start talking about things that bring me joy, and get some brighter colors up in here. (This will probably be pretttttyyy slow because I work like, nine hours a day and go to school three more, but it will HAPPEN).

If you’re still reading this, thank you for being patient with me, thank you for hanging on, and thank you for letting me fail and make mistakes and still come back to try again.

 

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Blogtober Day 31: HAPPY HALLOWEEN

IT’S HERE IT HAPPENED!! HAPPY HALLOWEEN!

I was going to write this yesterday, but then I realized that the festivities hadn’t actually occurred, and thus I would have nothing to talk about, so here we are.

Guys, I love Halloween. The entire day just seems super spooky no matter what you’re doing. Like, I was driving down the Merritt Parkway and all the yellow leaves were just giving me major fall/Halloween vibes. Anyway.

Yesterday was sort of a miscellaneous day until the night; I read a spooky book with a fall candle. I went to the bank and the grocery store. I did some laundry. And THEN it was HALLOWEEN TIME.

My roommate and I, and one of our friends, and one of her friends from work all went out together (actually to the bar where I work) for some pretzels and beer, and obviously we were super extra the entire time (See below).

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This costume was SO easy but one of my favorites! I’d bought this body suit ages ago and never worn it, so tonight was the night! My twin (sorority) gave me the velvet skirt when she was cleaning out her closet, so the only things I bought were the spider web tights and super extra hat. And honestly, when you’re a little drunk, the netting on the hat is the most fun thing to play with.

All in all, it was a super successful Halloween. We had a ton of fun, ate some good things, and I read a couple super spooky books (definitely read Disney’s Hocus Pocus, thanks Mom!!!!). And I’m definitely breaking this Halloween costume back out for our Halloween event at work on Saturday, and also probably next year TBH.

Anyway, I hope everyone had a safe and happy Halloween! Now that Blogtober has officially ended (thanks for following!) I’m going back to a regular posting schedule, probably Mon/Wed/Fri/Sun. Could change, but that’s what I’m aiming for right now.

Catch ya later my spooky friends!

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Blogtober Day 19: The Little Things

Happy Blogtober Day 19! We’re definitely getting up there; I can’t believe October is almost OVER! I’m a little sad, but I also love the holidays, so I’m not reaaaally super mad.

Anyway, this is going to be kind of a short little baby post, but I really was just FEELING it, you know? I’ve been really appreciating fall lately and I really just wanted to sit and make a list of all the little things I’ve seen lately that have just made me really grateful for being alive.

When I started thinking about that, I started thinking about how cliche it sounds, but how important it is. Whenever I get too stressed, Bobby tells me to just BREATHE. Stay in the moment, recognize where you are and what you’re doing, and be mindful. It’s great advice, and we should all take it more often. When I take the time to appreciate the little things around me, it makes me an all around more mindful, happy person.

We have such a tendency to get caught up in whatever is going on- work stressors, relationshps, filling our already cluttered schedules with emails and phone calls and coffee dates where we anxiously check the clock the whole time to makes sure we’re not late for our next appointment…we never actually get to ENJOY anything.

So, this week I’ve been making a special effort to really notice and appreciate all of the teeny little things the universe has to offer. Sort of like the world is saying, “Hey, look. It’ll be okay.” Here’s a few examples of things I’ve stopped to notice and appreciate over the past week:

  • a perfectly shaded,  bright red, yellow, and green leaf just laying in the grocery store parking lot. Literally looked like someone had pulled it off the shelf at Michael’s. It was PERFECT.
  • the shade of blue the sky turns right around 9 am when I leave the gym
  • the Glade “Cozy Autumn Cuddle” candle. I buy one (two) every single year and burn through them.
  •  that really nice in-between weather where the air is crisp and chilly, but the sun is shining down, so the entire outdoor climate is just in perfect equilibrium
  • the moment when you first wake up in the morning before you open your eyes where there’s just total peace as you float between asleep and awake
  • a really good, long, belly laugh with your best friends. The kind where you laugh until you can’t breathe and you’re crying and your stomach hurts.
  • the colors of the trees driving down the Merritt Parkway (Connecticut is BEAUTIFUL in the fall. New England does not play.)

I guarantee there will be more, but these are just a few things that make me really happy when I see them and just kind of give me a really good feeling about being alive.

Share with me some of the fun little things that bring you joy in your life! I’d love to hear them!

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Day 14: Self Care Sunday: What to do when you just can’t shake it

Once again, I have to apologize for disappearing briefly. Y’all, I’ve been a straight up MESS, with this insane sinus infection, and grad school finals (I’m in a really intense program where classes are only 8 weeks) and work and literally just attempting to function. Which brings me to today’s (late) post…

What do you do when you just can’t shake it? You know what I’m talking about. You get in that mood where everything is wrong. You’re stressed out. You’re busy. You start neglecting things like sleep, and proper nutrition, and working out, and you just can’t lose the funk, no matter how many self help books you read. Guess what? It’s okay.

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TIP: sometimes looking at cute lil animals cheers me up in the moment!

Of course, I’d like to say that if you are in such a state that you literally cannot function (as in get out of bed, shower, leave the house, go to work, complete basic tasks, etc.) on any level, you may actually be dealing with a clinical mental illness such as depression, and you should seek professional help immediately.

The funk I’m talking about here is when you’re just feeling kind of “meh” about everything and can’t seem to get yourself on a roll again. Sometimes, the first step is just acknowledging these feelings are here and this is happening. Okay, yeah, maybe I am stressed. I haven’t been sleeping. I haven’t been eating well. I haven’t been taking care of myself. What can I do about it?

Start with just the basics. Look at your week right now. Is there anything you can step back from just for the moment? Cancel a weekly coffee date? Ask your friend at work to pick up your shift? Set aside a chunk of time for just YOU. Then, start restructuring things so that you can manage to squeeze in enough sleep. This is so important. Even if it means not making your 4:30 am workout, or closing down netflix early. Sleep is vital.

Yes, I know there are still other things going on in your life, but if you’re overwhelmed, trying to fix everything at once won’t work. Pick certain things. First, start getting enough sleep. Then, focus on feeding yourself more fruits and veggies. Then, start finding time to add a workout in.

I also like to try to put in little acts of self care throughout my day to try to get myself more excited and feeling better. Using a nice body scrub in the shower, putting on my really soft PJ’s at night, snuggling up with my favorite blanket and some tea, lighting candles. Just something that makes me feel special.

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Tea? Fuzzy socks? Sounds good.

And remember, everything comes to an end. You will not feel like this forever. It sucks right now, but it will come to an end. Put your health first. There is nothing heroic or poetic about being miserable and about to burn out. I’ve found that to be such an overwhelming idea within our culture, that we fight to see who is neglecting themselves more. That’s a post for a different time though.

Sleep. Nutrition. Exercise. Self Care. Be gentle with yourself. Again, if you cannot function, if you are in more than just a “meh-feeling-funk,” you may be dealing with a clinical mental illness. Please seek professional help immediately to determine what is going on.

Thanks for reading guys! I promise, I’ll try to be more on top of things.  I only have one final left & then my new round of classes starts,  so hopefully I’ll be less insane. I’m also trying to input some of these tips in my own life LOL! We’ll see what happens!

 

 

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Blogtober Day 11: Not So Scary Halloween Flicks

It’s fall, it’s fall, it’s fall, it’s FALL. Even if it’s 75 degrees, it’s FALL.

As many of you have probably been able to tell, I’m a little obsessed. I’m also the kind of person who loves feeling spooky, but not TERRIFIED. In a world of “love it or hate it” Halloween people, what do you do when you fall in the middle? Well, that’s why I’m here.

1. Halloweentown/Halloweentown II: Kalabar’s Revenge/Halloweentown High/Return to Halloweentown

Of course I had to list all four! You can’t just watch one and ignore the others! All of the Halloweentown movies are stellar and give you the sort of Halloween vibes you liked as a kid (and that I still like now). Fun, festive, with just the right hint of spook to send little shivers down your spine, but not actually scare you. Real talk, though: why did they think we wouldn’t notice they replaced Marnie?!

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2. Hocus Pocus

Again, I feel like this is a very obvious choice, but it’s one of my all time favorites. I’m defintely going to watch this one this year with my Hocus Pocus coffee mug and some tea. It’s definitely spooky, it’s hilarious, and it’s been a classic of mine for many years.

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3. The Conjuring

There are about two horror movies I can really stand, and The Conjuring is one of them. Don’t get me wrong, I still hide my head in my blanket and make my fiance stand outside the bathroom door if I have to go in case there’s a demon, but something about being all snuggled up and terrified really just gets me ready for fall.

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4. The Shining

Aaaand this is the other horror movie I can reasonably stand. Again, it’s terrifying, but it’s also just so incredibly well done that I can’t help but enjoy it. The acting is brilliant, the concept, the effects,  I’m really a big fan! Even if you don’t like super scary movies, this one is a cinematic work of art, and a total must see.

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5. It’s The Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown!

MY FAVORITE!!! I love this movie so much; I honestly don’t feel like it’s Halloween unless I watch this at least once. It’s just SO CUTE! And it gives me so many nostalgic feels. I like to watch this one ON Halloween, or at least the day before. It’s just so fitting.

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So there we are! Just a few of my favorite Halloween movies. And by a few, I mean eight (don’t forget Halloweentown has four in the series!). And I could honestly go on and on…don’t even get me STARTED on the Disney Channel original Twitches. And also the Halloween episodes of The Office. There’s just SO MANY!

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Blogtober Day 10: Where Have I BEEN?! / Blogtober Reboot

Yo yo,

I’m back, okay, sorry about this whole thing. While I understand Blogtober is a post a day for the entire month of October, there were some minor complications that got me a good bit behind. Namely, I came down with an absurdly horrible sinus infection and did nothing but blow my nose and snuggle up with my fiance for about two or three days. I’m also currently booking my wedding venue, so it’s just been a wild ride.

Now that I’m a semi-functioning person again, I figured I should start getting my life in order. That meant picking this back up again. I thought about trying to backlog and fill in all the posts I missed, but then I thought that was a ridiculous idea, and if I did that I’d never catch up, so we’re just picking up right here, day 10, and moving forward from there. I’ll try to be more on my shit, no intense promises, but wow have I learned a lot about PREPPING BLOG POSTS.

Okay, there’s my update, sorry for being so short, but I will be back tomorrow with a REAL Blogtober post!

See ya soon!

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Blogtober Day 6: Q: Is blogging a stressor or a stress relief?

Hello again,

Lately this question has been running around in my mind about whether blogging is more stressful than it is helpful. I mean, think about it. It’s a time committment, it takes a lot of creativity and practice, it’s definitely an act of effort.

So then why do it? If you’re already stressed and busy, why keep something else on the plate? That’s time you could be sleeping, or working on another project (like the forgotten novel in my harddrive…), or doing any number of things. So why blogging?

After thinking, I realized that my blog is truly a stress relief for me. Yes, it takes time, but it allows me to have this window of time where I am doing something I still deem productive, but I’m not stressed about (as opposed to doing homework). It’s just for fun. There’s no stakes. This isn’t my livelihood. It’s just something that lets me take a breather and share some funny stories with the world. And by world, I mean my Grandma, who is the MVP and reads literally every single one of these and comments because she’s the most wonderful woman in the world and I’m so blessed to have her (HI GRANDMA I LOVE YOU!!).

This is all stuff I enjoy. I love exploring different ideas about happiness and self love and the psychology of humans. I love the fall. I love beauty and lifestyle content. I love connecting with people and making new friends, and truly I have met some wonderful people through the short time I’ve been blogging. It’s just FUN.

It also helps you to learn how to make mistakes. If I miss a post, I learn not to beat myself up over it. I just write it the next day, and keep going. If my content isn’t perfect, I have to remind myself that perfection isn’t an attainable standard and whatever I can do is ENOUGH.

This sounds so bizarre, but it’s really therapeutic in a way! So if you’re considering starting a blog, you should! I think you’ll be surprised at what it can do for you. And of course if you need any support just let me know! I’d love to chat!