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Blogtober Day 5: FALL CLEANING CHECKLIST

Hey hey hey!

Now that fall is officially underway, I’m getting the itch to start doing some fall cleaning. To me, this is almost more exciting than spring cleaning. Fall cleaning means getting your house nice and cozy and ready for the chilly weather. Just thinking about colder weather and falling leaves makes me want to gut my entire house and polish the woodwork.

For each season, I like to make a cleaning checklist of various tasks I want to get done for the start of the season. If anyone out there is a psychopath like I am and wants to use this checklist for their own house, feel free to do so!

fall cleaning.jpgORGANIZATION/DECLUTTERING:

~ Go through summer and fall wardrobes. Get rid of any items you didn’t wear over the summer, and any you know you won’t wear going into fall.
~ Do the same thing with your shoes
~ Declutter and organize the desktop and desk drawers. Throw out old bills (already paid), old receipts, anything you not longer need. Anything you do need, file.
~ Do a good, thorough room organization. Dresser drawers, side tables, bins of clothing and odds and ends. You’d be surprised how badly you need it.
~ Go through your refrigerator and be sure you don’t have any bad leftovers, expired food, etc.
~ Go through your bathroom and get rid of any products you no longer use or that have expired.
~ Look in each room carefully. Is there a storage crisis you’re having? Identify key problems. Maybe your jewelry never stays organized, or your t-shirt drawer gets messed up, or you can’t keep a neat pantry. Identify the problem, and find a solution to fix it.

CLEANING:

~ Sweep and mop (or vacuum) all your floors.
~ Wipe down the windows and windowsills. It might be the last time you think about it until it gets warmer.
~ Wipe down all the radiators to get rid of the dust in preparation to start using them.
~ Wash all your sheets and put fresh ones on the beds.
~ Wash all blankets or pillows or anything that doesn’t get a lot of love if it happens to need it.
~ Do a solid scrub down of both the kitchen and the bathroom.
~ Scrub down surfaces so everything looks nice and shiny and clean.

MISC:

~ Clean out your email inboxes and delete any old emails you don’t need. Respond to and file the rest.
~ Do a solid sort-through of everything on your phone. Delete anything taking up storage you don’t need, or transfer it to a google drive.
~ Take a mental assesment. What in your life is causing you stress or anxiety? Certain people? An aspect of work? Lack of time management? Identify the problem, and come up with a solution, whether it be making time for meditation every day, investing in a planner, or seeking professional help of a counselor.
~ Take stock of anything you might need personally. As well as equipping your home, it’s about equipping yourself! Maybe your workout routine needs some love. Maybe you desperately need a new hairdryer and you’ve been putting it off. Maybe that DIY project has been sitting in the corner for months. Wrap some things up and find NEW BEGINNINGS!
~ Take the house plants inside for the season and find them a new home.

That’s the essence of what I have. Of course, I always end up adding some weird obscure things at the last minute, like organizing the bookshelf, or categorizing the pantry, but that’s the skeleton outline of my list.

What’s on yours?! Honestly, I’m so open to suggestion. I love this kind of stuff. HA! Until tomorrow!

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Blogtober Day 3: October 3rd Celebration

What is the significance, you ask, of October 3rd? Well, there’s a lot of things, and I’ll tell you all of them right now.

Firstly, it is two years from the day that my first ever college theater show opened (you know, the same one I met my fiance doing). It is also two years from my WEDDING DAY. Yeah, I’m still really excited, as you can tell.

It is also National Mean Girls Day!! Mean Girls was one of my favorite movies as a teenager, and to this day my cousin (one of my best friends) and I still wear pink and wish each other a Happy October 3rd every single year. Because this October 3rd falls on a Wednesday, it’s especially important that we celebrate. This is just a goofy little post, but I’m having fun, so bear with me. And now, some ideas for how to celebrate October 3rd.

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1. Wear pink.

This one seems pretty obvious, but WEAR SOME PINK! It can be any pink, from a cardigan to Damian’s bright pink polo, but wearing pink will definitely get you in the right mood.

2. Watch Mean Girls.

Duh! Again, an obvious choice, but it’s just the perfect day for it! It’ll give you nostalgia like you won’t believe- trust me.

3. Eat cheese fries.

Come on, you’ve got to remember this classic line: “Whatever, I’m getting cheese fries.” Straight from the lips of the Queen Bee herself, Regina George. So today, you should totally get yourself some cheese fries, and eat them while wearing pink, and watching Mean Girls. It’s the ultimate trio.

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4. Sing your own rendition of “Beautiful” by Christina Aguilera, or learn the choreography to “Jingle Bell Rock”. 

It’s one of the most iconic scenes in the movie, so it makes sense you would want to do one of these two things before the day ends. Maybe do both. I would learn the choreography, but I already know the entire thing, and I’m not ashamed to admit that.

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So there we have it. Clearly, October 3rd is a very special day to me for a multitude of reasons, but even if this wasn’t my wedding date, I’d still be celebrating Mean Girls Day. If anyone sees Tina Fey and wants to direct her to this post, that would be great. I think we’d be great friends.

Self Care Sunday, Soul Food, Uncategorized

Self Care Sunday: Self Love Habits to Form

Hey y’all!

On Friday, we chatted about self-love at the core of what it is. Now, after emphasizing how cool and important it is, I thought it might be fun to give you some ideas of self-love habits to form to really make this a part of your everyday life!

These are things that I either already do or intend to implement in my life, so don’t worry; I’m not giving advice without taking it!

1. Make time for one act of self-care a day.

This is something I’m actively trying to implement in my life. You have to do ONE act of self care every single day. Could be as simple as taking time to read a few chapters of your favorite book and lighting a candle. Could be an intricate spa day with relaxing music and shopping. Doesn’t matter what it is, just so long as it gives you a nice break from the stresses of every day life.

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2. Positive self talk.

This one always makes me feel a little ridiculous, but it usually helps. Whenver you’re beating yourself up about something, or you’re just being really harsh, talk yourself out of it. Literally. I will stand there and go, “Okay, STOP. We are NOT doing this.” Out loud. (Usually I’m alone.) Then, re-route that thought into something positive. “Maybe I don’t have a lot of energy to do things today, but that’s okay, because I work really hard, and sometimes I just need a break.” See?

3. Forgive yourself!

Tip number three! FORGIVE YOURSELF! This one is SO hard but SO necessary. Sometimes, you’ll mess up. You’ll screw up a work assignment, get a bad grade, eat something that doesn’t fall in your healthy lifestyle. IT IS OKAY! Humans make mistakes. What’s important is that you can go, “Okay, I screwed up. It’s okay. It doesn’t define me. What am I learning, and how can I do better next time?” Then just leave it. That’s it. Takes practice, but super valuable.

4. Do what you NEED, even if you’re not feeling it.

Sometimes, showing yourself self-love is eating that ice cream you’ve been craving even though it’s not super healthy. But sometimes, showing yourself self-love is dragging yourself out of bed to go move, be it a full workout, a stretch, or a walk. Sometimes it’s making sure you get all your veggies in for the day, and drink enough water, and get enough sleep. These aren’t always fun things, and they’re not always what we feel like doing, but our bodies CRAVE healthy habits, and by doing these, you’re loving your body enough to put in the extra effort so that it gets what it really deserves

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So there you have it! Those are just four of my favorite ways to show your body self-love on a daily basis. What are some of things you like to do to keep your self-love rolling strong? Share in the comments below!

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Self Care Sunday: Reflection

Hey hey hey,

Happy Sunday! This is the second Self Care Sunday post of this blog’s existence, which I’m excited about. So I figured today, I’d kind of just delve back into how my weekly focus on self care went in order to better direct the way this is going to go.

This week was hard, no lies. It’s not that I had a lot to do; it’s actually the opposite. I had a lot of time this week to sort of sit around and do nothing, and that is definitely not how I prefer to spend my time. I like to be goinggoinggoingoinggoing all the time. So this week, I was actually pretty sad and feeling useless about it. As much as I maybe didn’t handle it as well as I should have, it was an important lesson. It’s important to be able to sit with being by yourself and not having much to do. It’s not healthy to be moving at light speed every single day. It’s nice to have time to read a book, watch a show, sleep in a little more, dedicate yourself to an especially good workout. As it happens, I did all of those things this week.

Yeah, it was actually really hard for me, as crazy as that sounds, but I did something as a result of that. I scheduled today to purposefully be a pretty slow day after a busy weekend. I slept in a bit, took my time getting ready, and spent the majority of my morning at church. It was exactly what I needed today, and for the rest of this week. (It’s so crazy how sometimes it’s like, God just KNOWS what you need to hear!! Am I the only one who ever feels targeted??) I came home, ate a salad, read a book, and I did do the things I had to get done, but not like a crazy person. Not like my life depended on it. I just did them.

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The look on this random stock photo girls’s face says it all; sometimes the most satisfying thing is just sitting down and having a cuppa tea! 

I’m going to finish a couple things for work. I’m going to eat some dinner. I’m going to talk to a friend on the phone. And I’m going to do the rest of the week like this; getting done the things I have to get done, but not at a speed where it feels like I’m punishing myself. Still making time to do the things that are good for me, whether it be mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

I think that’s a lot of what self care is, and that’s what I’ve learned this past week. It’s just being kind to yourself, living your life,  but living it in a way where you’re comfortable just being sometimes, you know?

That’s my self care reflection; next Sunday is going to be something super exciting, and I can’t wait to talk about it! Have a good week everyone; I’ll talk to you tomorrow!

Soul Food, Uncategorized

How To STOP Caring So Much About What Other People Think!

Hey everybody!

On Monday, I talked about why we all care so much what other people think about us. Not that I have an exact explanation, but I have my theories. I felt like it only made sense to follow up with how to STOP caring about what other people think.

Disclaimer: I do NOT have this down pat. I definitely still care way too much, and I hate that I do, but these are some things that I do when I catch myself being too aware of the rest of the world.

1. Remind yourself of the people whose opinions actually matter.

This is a smaller list than you think. Of course, the only one who actually has to be happy with yourself is you, and you are entitled to cut out any toxic people who make you feel badly, and no one is allowed to tell you how to live your life. That being said, there are a few people whose opinions I value, and genuinely care what they think and have to say, and I try to live my life in a way that they will respect and be proud of. Just as an example, here’s my list:
-God. My parents. My grandparents.  My boyfriend. My best friends.

Yeah, that’s it. The guy sitting in traffic next to me? The couple in front of me in line at the store? The girls in my class? Doesn’t matter. Decide on your own list, and run through it in your mind in moments you find yourself caring too much about how you appear.

2. Ask yourself what consequence you’re really trying to avoid.

If this random person is actually judging you as you think they are, what’s the consequence of that? What exactly are you trying to avoid? Are you afraid of being ridiculed publicly? Are you afraid of people talking badly behind your back? Are you afraid of losing friends? Are you just afraid of that judgy thought existing in someone’s mind? Try to really narrow it down. And then…

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Okay, so the thought process doesn’t have to be THIS in depth, but you get the idea! 

3. Ask yourself if that consequence would really be so bad.

Being ridiculed in public would be really embarrassing, but would your life end, or would you be afraid to leave your house? If people are talking badly about you behind your back, are they really the petty, negative individuals you want to be impacting your life? Because they probably aren’t giving what you think of them a second thought. If your friends would abandon you over whatever decision you’re trying to make, are they really the supportive, loving people you need in your life anyway? Do you see where this is all going?

4. DON’T STOP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING! 

This can manifest in a number of ways, but all of them definitely require stepping out of your comfort zone, so get ready. If you’re worried about people judging you for listening to Hannah Montana at top volume with your windows down, resist the urge to side glance at drivers next to you and turn the radio lower. Just keep rocking out and ignoring. On the other end, if you’re worried about people judging you for leaving a graduate school program, but you’re sure the decision is right for you, then just make it. Everyone will get over it, and that decision impacts YOUR life, NOT theirs.

It’s a lot of self-analysis, a lot of self-awareness, and a lot of stepping out of your comfort zone, but going through this thought process tends to help me when I’m really caught up with the world around me. This is exactly what I was going through when I was trying to decide if I wanted to start a blog. I ultimately decided it was worth it, put on my big girl pants, and said screw everyone else, I’m trying something new. And guess what? The world is still turning, I still exist, and everything is pretty okay.

I hope that was somewhat helpful! Let me know what you think, or if you have anything you do to help you stop caring so much about people’s opinions!

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I know this is cheesy, okay, I just felt like it was necessary.
Soul Food, Uncategorized

WHY Do We All Care SO MUCH What Other People Think?!

Hey everyone,

Today’s post is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I’ve been doing a lot of self work, and in my attempt to be more self aware, I realized I care WAY too much about what other people think. Like, WAY too much. Once I was aware of it, it seemed like every single move I made I was doing with the thought of what everyone would think.

And by everyone, I mean EVERYONE. My best friend, my boyfriend, my instagram followers, my next door neighbor, the people in line behind me at Target, all my facebook friends, the girls I went to high school with whom I haven’t spoken to in years. And you know the worst part? I couldn’t figure out why I cared!

I mean, think about it. Really think about it. What difference does it truly make if a few of your followers think you’re a dork? Or if the girl behind you in Target is prettier than you and makes you feel awkward? What if someone else notices? None of that stuff matters!

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This is what I always tell myself whenever I get too caught up in people’s opinions! 

And so why do we all care? Is it social media? Is it just that we as humans have an inherent need to be liked and included? Maybe a bit of both? That’s what my money is on. Humans like to belong. We like to feel included. We like to know that we are liked and supported. And no matter how many times you say you don’t care, you do at heart, even a little, because I guarantee you still run decisions by your friends. Why? Because you want them to approve and remain your friends.

Really think about it. Start to notice your own thought process, and you’ll see how many times a day you wonder what the people around you are thinking. And honestly ask yourself why. I know that I want everyone to like me, and I need to get used to the fact that not everyone will. That’s just how life works.

We as a population put way too much stock into what the rest of the world thinks–myself more than most people–but we never really stop to think exactly why it’s important to us, and what would happen if we just stopped noticing.

So, think about that a little. Sit with it. Let it make you uncomfortable, I’ll be back Wednesday, and we can chat about it some more.

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Self Care Sunday: Recent Self Care & Intentions

Hey party people,

Happy Sunday! Something about Sundays is just so relaxing. Maybe it’s just the long time association of Sunday being a “day of rest,” honestly I’m not sure. To me, Sundays tend to be a good day to reflect, clean, and just generally get my life together.

I also really like to emphasize self care on Sundays, which is why I’m beginning this series called Self Care Sunday, where I’ll discuss one aspect of self care each week. This week, since it’s the first, I’m just going to reflect on my own recent efforts in self care and what I could be doing better.

Something I’ve been really emphasizing, as someone who is perpetually busy, is letting myself slow down and not having to cram my days full of useless tasks if I really don’t have much to do. It’s letting myself meditate, light candles, read a book, and essentially just give my body and soul whatever it needs at the time.

Today, for instance, I feel awful. Undecided if it’s allergies or me getting sick, but self care for me means listening to myself. Sure, I could clean the kitchen, change my rat’s bedding, clean my bedroom, do some homework, work on some events for work, etc. Instead, I recognized how awful I was feeling. I took a really hot shower. I drank some tea. I snuggled on the couch with my boyfriend and watched Beauty and the Beast. I’m typing this blog post, and then I’ll probably read a book, watch some Netflix, or take a nap. Do I have things I could be doing immediately? Sure, but I could also do them early tomorrow morning when I’ll hopefully feel better and just let myself have today.

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honestly, this is basically what I look like today.  I’m not even sorry.

So that’s my focus for this week. It’s important to love yourself and treat yourself well, and make allowances for yourself. You would tell a friend to take it easy and be kind to themselves, so you should be doing the same for yourself.

Alright, I’m off to start a book (or maybe a new Netflix series). Talk to you soon!