Day 14: Self Care Sunday: What to do when you just can’t shake it

Once again, I have to apologize for disappearing briefly. Y’all, I’ve been a straight up MESS, with this insane sinus infection, and grad school finals (I’m in a really intense program where classes are only 8 weeks) and work and literally just attempting to function. Which brings me to today’s (late) post…

What do you do when you just can’t shake it? You know what I’m talking about. You get in that mood where everything is wrong. You’re stressed out. You’re busy. You start neglecting things like sleep, and proper nutrition, and working out, and you just can’t lose the funk, no matter how many self help books you read. Guess what? It’s okay.

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TIP: sometimes looking at cute lil animals cheers me up in the moment!

Of course, I’d like to say that if you are in such a state that you literally cannot function (as in get out of bed, shower, leave the house, go to work, complete basic tasks, etc.) on any level, you may actually be dealing with a clinical mental illness such as depression, and you should seek professional help immediately.

The funk I’m talking about here is when you’re just feeling kind of “meh” about everything and can’t seem to get yourself on a roll again. Sometimes, the first step is just acknowledging these feelings are here and this is happening. Okay, yeah, maybe I am stressed. I haven’t been sleeping. I haven’t been eating well. I haven’t been taking care of myself. What can I do about it?

Start with just the basics. Look at your week right now. Is there anything you can step back from just for the moment? Cancel a weekly coffee date? Ask your friend at work to pick up your shift? Set aside a chunk of time for just YOU. Then, start restructuring things so that you can manage to squeeze in enough sleep. This is so important. Even if it means not making your 4:30 am workout, or closing down netflix early. Sleep is vital.

Yes, I know there are still other things going on in your life, but if you’re overwhelmed, trying to fix everything at once won’t work. Pick certain things. First, start getting enough sleep. Then, focus on feeding yourself more fruits and veggies. Then, start finding time to add a workout in.

I also like to try to put in little acts of self care throughout my day to try to get myself more excited and feeling better. Using a nice body scrub in the shower, putting on my really soft PJ’s at night, snuggling up with my favorite blanket and some tea, lighting candles. Just something that makes me feel special.

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Tea? Fuzzy socks? Sounds good.

And remember, everything comes to an end. You will not feel like this forever. It sucks right now, but it will come to an end. Put your health first. There is nothing heroic or poetic about being miserable and about to burn out. I’ve found that to be such an overwhelming idea within our culture, that we fight to see who is neglecting themselves more. That’s a post for a different time though.

Sleep. Nutrition. Exercise. Self Care. Be gentle with yourself. Again, if you cannot function, if you are in more than just a “meh-feeling-funk,” you may be dealing with a clinical mental illness. Please seek professional help immediately to determine what is going on.

Thanks for reading guys! I promise, I’ll try to be more on top of things.  I only have one final left & then my new round of classes starts,  so hopefully I’ll be less insane. I’m also trying to input some of these tips in my own life LOL! We’ll see what happens!

 

 

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Blogtober Day 6: Q: Is blogging a stressor or a stress relief?

Hello again,

Lately this question has been running around in my mind about whether blogging is more stressful than it is helpful. I mean, think about it. It’s a time committment, it takes a lot of creativity and practice, it’s definitely an act of effort.

So then why do it? If you’re already stressed and busy, why keep something else on the plate? That’s time you could be sleeping, or working on another project (like the forgotten novel in my harddrive…), or doing any number of things. So why blogging?

After thinking, I realized that my blog is truly a stress relief for me. Yes, it takes time, but it allows me to have this window of time where I am doing something I still deem productive, but I’m not stressed about (as opposed to doing homework). It’s just for fun. There’s no stakes. This isn’t my livelihood. It’s just something that lets me take a breather and share some funny stories with the world. And by world, I mean my Grandma, who is the MVP and reads literally every single one of these and comments because she’s the most wonderful woman in the world and I’m so blessed to have her (HI GRANDMA I LOVE YOU!!).

This is all stuff I enjoy. I love exploring different ideas about happiness and self love and the psychology of humans. I love the fall. I love beauty and lifestyle content. I love connecting with people and making new friends, and truly I have met some wonderful people through the short time I’ve been blogging. It’s just FUN.

It also helps you to learn how to make mistakes. If I miss a post, I learn not to beat myself up over it. I just write it the next day, and keep going. If my content isn’t perfect, I have to remind myself that perfection isn’t an attainable standard and whatever I can do is ENOUGH.

This sounds so bizarre, but it’s really therapeutic in a way! So if you’re considering starting a blog, you should! I think you’ll be surprised at what it can do for you. And of course if you need any support just let me know! I’d love to chat!

HAPPY BLOGTOBER!

HAPPY MONDAY!

More importantly, Happy OCTOBER. Most importantly, HAPPY BLOGTOBER!

I have so many exciting posts planned for this month; I can’t wait for you to see them! We’ve got some Self Care Sundays, we’ve got some lifestyle focus, we’ve got a couple collaborations…y’all, it is going to be a GOOD TIME!

Here’s the gist: Every day in the month of October, I post a blog post. Some of them are spooky, some of them are fall-themed, some of them are just regular posts. It’s one post EVERY! DAY!

Is that a lot of work? Yes, but I’m honestly so here for it.

Y’all, I’m just really excited. I’ve been working super hard on this, and I’m so excited to really launch it.

Let me know what you think, what you’d like to see, and if you’re doing Blogtober! Send me links to either your blogs or blogs that you like to follow!

TALK TO YA TOMORROW!

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Self Care Sunday: Self Love Habits to Form

Hey y’all!

On Friday, we chatted about self-love at the core of what it is. Now, after emphasizing how cool and important it is, I thought it might be fun to give you some ideas of self-love habits to form to really make this a part of your everyday life!

These are things that I either already do or intend to implement in my life, so don’t worry; I’m not giving advice without taking it!

1. Make time for one act of self-care a day.

This is something I’m actively trying to implement in my life. You have to do ONE act of self care every single day. Could be as simple as taking time to read a few chapters of your favorite book and lighting a candle. Could be an intricate spa day with relaxing music and shopping. Doesn’t matter what it is, just so long as it gives you a nice break from the stresses of every day life.

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2. Positive self talk.

This one always makes me feel a little ridiculous, but it usually helps. Whenver you’re beating yourself up about something, or you’re just being really harsh, talk yourself out of it. Literally. I will stand there and go, “Okay, STOP. We are NOT doing this.” Out loud. (Usually I’m alone.) Then, re-route that thought into something positive. “Maybe I don’t have a lot of energy to do things today, but that’s okay, because I work really hard, and sometimes I just need a break.” See?

3. Forgive yourself!

Tip number three! FORGIVE YOURSELF! This one is SO hard but SO necessary. Sometimes, you’ll mess up. You’ll screw up a work assignment, get a bad grade, eat something that doesn’t fall in your healthy lifestyle. IT IS OKAY! Humans make mistakes. What’s important is that you can go, “Okay, I screwed up. It’s okay. It doesn’t define me. What am I learning, and how can I do better next time?” Then just leave it. That’s it. Takes practice, but super valuable.

4. Do what you NEED, even if you’re not feeling it.

Sometimes, showing yourself self-love is eating that ice cream you’ve been craving even though it’s not super healthy. But sometimes, showing yourself self-love is dragging yourself out of bed to go move, be it a full workout, a stretch, or a walk. Sometimes it’s making sure you get all your veggies in for the day, and drink enough water, and get enough sleep. These aren’t always fun things, and they’re not always what we feel like doing, but our bodies CRAVE healthy habits, and by doing these, you’re loving your body enough to put in the extra effort so that it gets what it really deserves

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So there you have it! Those are just four of my favorite ways to show your body self-love on a daily basis. What are some of things you like to do to keep your self-love rolling strong? Share in the comments below!

What IS self-love, and why are we so obsessed with it?

We always hear all this talk about self-love and how important it is, but what exactly IS self-love? What constitutes as self-love? And why are we as a generation so obsessed with it?

I mean, think about it. Self-love wasn’t a term I heard until well into my college years. Self-love and self-care wasn’t something I grew up on, and I’m willing to bet most of you didn’t either.

Self-love at its core is defined simply as “regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristics).” Yes, I did google that, and yes I think it sums it up pretty well. Self-love is really just putting yourself first. Taking the time to do the things that make you happy, that put you in a good state of wellbeing (be it physical, mental, emotional), and that put you in the best place to take on life!

Self-love also means being kind to yourself. Not being too harsh on yourself for making mistakes, pep-talking yourself, and treating yourself now and again when you need it!

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All in all, self-love comes down to just truly taking care of yourself and being cognizant of all your needs. So why are we so obsessed with it today? It seems every time you turn around there’s a new article or post about how to show yourself a little bit of self-love. Maybe it stems from the new emotional and psychological awareness this generation seems to have. Millennials seem to be a lot more sensitive to the true state of our emotional affairs than generations prior were.

Think about it. The norm even as early as twenty years ago was to bury your emotions, to just get over it, and to not rock the boat, even at the risk of having to suppress some deep-seated trauma. I’ve asked my mom about this in the past, and the best answer she has is “That’s just how it was,” because that’s really all there is to it!

Now, thankfully, we have much more of an emphasis on lifting each other up, lifting ourselves up, and caring for the all around well-being of ourselves and others. I love the self-love movement, and I’ll be the first to admit I preach it to anyone and everyone. Here’s to continuing loving and caring for the wonderful person you are; whether you know it or not, YOU DESERVE IT!

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One Month Down: Grad School Reflections

Hey everyone!

For today’s post, I thought I’d take a look back at the last month that I’ve spent in grad school. I finished undergrad in May 2017, and I started a M.A. program this fall in public relations.

The program I’m in is only a year long, so it’s broken into modules instead of semesters, which makes it pretty intense. I’m not sure what exactly I was expecting, but it’s a combination of things. The program is really intense, and can be difficult. Some things I am really struggling with (like my Photoshop class). Other things I am genuinely enjoying to the point of them not feeling like assignments (like event planning and PR plans).

Time Management:
One thing I didn’t miss was how much time school takes up! There’s two nights of the week I spend in class, which doesn’t sound like much, but when you’re trying to cram everything into a day, the time slips by. I’ve definitely had to try to relearn time management. I was great at it in my undergrad, but nowadays I find myself struggling more.

One of the major things I’ve had to learn is that Rome wasn’t built in a day. I can’t do all of my homework, and complete assignments for work, and prep all my blog posts, and clean my house, and then go bartend or make it to class. I have to do a little bit each day, or dedicate one day to each pursuit. I’m still struggling with this idea, but I have to say I’m learning to accept it more.

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I’m OBSESSED with my Happy Planner! It helps keep me in line with everything I have going on. 

 

SELF CARE IS MANDATORY! 
I’m also learning how valuable time is. Why waste it watching hours of netflix when I could be prepping blog posts or working on a project? If I’m using my time for something else, it’s because I have made a conscious decision that it’s necessary self care. Watching one episode of a great show with a candle, or reading a magazine to relax. The couple hours I get in the morning to do devotionals and to go to the gym are KATE TIME and those are not negotiable things. Sometimes I have to verbally tell myself that I am only human, and I am allowed to spend time taking care of my body, mind, and soul.

Everything comes to an end.
Just as the good things unfortunately end, so does the stress. By August 2019, I will have a master’s degree. It’s less than a year,  and like I tell myself, you can do ANYTHING for a year. It’s just a matter of balance and willpower, and some days are harder than others, but I find that as long as I keep my eye on the light at the end of the tunnel, things feel a little lighter.

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These are my reflections so far. I’m about halfway through module 1, so we’ll see how I’m feeling come Thanksgiving/Christmas when I’m gearing toward the end of Module 2 (There’s 6 of them.)

Are you in grad school? Do you have any tips?! PLEASE let me know! Thanks!

Self Care Sunday: Reflection

Hey hey hey,

Happy Sunday! This is the second Self Care Sunday post of this blog’s existence, which I’m excited about. So I figured today, I’d kind of just delve back into how my weekly focus on self care went in order to better direct the way this is going to go.

This week was hard, no lies. It’s not that I had a lot to do; it’s actually the opposite. I had a lot of time this week to sort of sit around and do nothing, and that is definitely not how I prefer to spend my time. I like to be goinggoinggoingoinggoing all the time. So this week, I was actually pretty sad and feeling useless about it. As much as I maybe didn’t handle it as well as I should have, it was an important lesson. It’s important to be able to sit with being by yourself and not having much to do. It’s not healthy to be moving at light speed every single day. It’s nice to have time to read a book, watch a show, sleep in a little more, dedicate yourself to an especially good workout. As it happens, I did all of those things this week.

Yeah, it was actually really hard for me, as crazy as that sounds, but I did something as a result of that. I scheduled today to purposefully be a pretty slow day after a busy weekend. I slept in a bit, took my time getting ready, and spent the majority of my morning at church. It was exactly what I needed today, and for the rest of this week. (It’s so crazy how sometimes it’s like, God just KNOWS what you need to hear!! Am I the only one who ever feels targeted??) I came home, ate a salad, read a book, and I did do the things I had to get done, but not like a crazy person. Not like my life depended on it. I just did them.

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The look on this random stock photo girls’s face says it all; sometimes the most satisfying thing is just sitting down and having a cuppa tea! 

I’m going to finish a couple things for work. I’m going to eat some dinner. I’m going to talk to a friend on the phone. And I’m going to do the rest of the week like this; getting done the things I have to get done, but not at a speed where it feels like I’m punishing myself. Still making time to do the things that are good for me, whether it be mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually.

I think that’s a lot of what self care is, and that’s what I’ve learned this past week. It’s just being kind to yourself, living your life,  but living it in a way where you’re comfortable just being sometimes, you know?

That’s my self care reflection; next Sunday is going to be something super exciting, and I can’t wait to talk about it! Have a good week everyone; I’ll talk to you tomorrow!