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WHERE in the FRESH HECK have I BEEN?!

HEY HEY HEY PARTY PEOPLE!

It’s me, your fearless leader. It is now an entirely different year than it was since the last time we spoke. We have moved through three different Zodiac windows (it’s now the AGE OF AQUARIUS, for reference). In short, it’s been a long ass time, and I’m going to offer an explanation for that.

Blogtober was a lot of fun, but it was also a ton of pressure for me as a new blogger to try to figure out the entire world while embarking on this giant project while ALSO making my way through my very first full semester of my accelerated graduate program. I took on too much. I bit off more than I could chew. This will surprise literally no one.

And usually, it’s fine. I’m an ambitious person. I like being busy. I work full time, I go to grad school full time, and I’m still trying to cram time in for things like fitness and learning new languages and reading books. It’s just who I am. That being said, I started this blog to be a stress-free, creative outlet that I could use to just create and let loose. Blogtober turned this blog into the opposite of that; I was feeling pressured to just pump out content as fast as I could, regardless of whether I really wanted to write about it that day or whether I thought it was as great as it could be.

So I neeed a step back, and what I thought was going to be a teeny step became a BIG step. But honestly, now that I’m getting into the swing of things again, I really missed it. And so here I am.

I’m going to do a lot of revamping, redesigning, reorganizing. I’m going to start talking about things that bring me joy, and get some brighter colors up in here. (This will probably be pretttttyyy slow because I work like, nine hours a day and go to school three more, but it will HAPPEN).

If you’re still reading this, thank you for being patient with me, thank you for hanging on, and thank you for letting me fail and make mistakes and still come back to try again.

 

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Blogtober Day 18: My Spooky Apartment!

It’s the time of year for the best part of holidays…DECORATING! My roommate & I have a box of miscellaneous holiday decorations in the closet (I’ll admit Christmas is overflowing to other places) and I love getting to open it and see all the cool things I forgot we had. Of course, I always end up buying more every year, so God Bless Bobby because we’re going to have to have an entire room in our house for all my themed items (Love you babe).

I thought it would be fun to share some of the things that I use to decorate my apartment! I love seeing everyone else’s decorations, so I’m here to hop on the bandwagon!

First is my FAVORITE! I have basically the coolest relatives alive, so one of them sent me this HALLOWEEN SLOTH BLANKET (Shirley you are my HERO), and I literally carry this thing around my apartment with me. I use it at night, at my desk, on my couch, like EVERYWHERE. I’ll honestly keep using it after Halloween, but right now it makes me feel so festive.

SPOOKY BED

NEXT: Spooky candles, spooky Target pumpkins…I’ve definitely shown this before on here, but it’s still one of my favorite setups. And it has changed- my plant babies had to come inside because it’s cold! Also, that candle is called Crisp Fall Night, and it’s so wonderful that I’m burning it without Bobby even though it’s “our” candle. (Sorry not sorry).

SPOOKY NIGHTSTAND

So, most of this stuff is actually here year round, like the little hedgehogs/bat, the black statue, the letters (my roommate & my sorority), and the skeleton succulent, but honestly they fit in so well with all the holiday decor. The vase I threw together today by shoving the little pumpkin garland into a vase; it was too tangled to unknot and hang, so I figured this was a good repurpose. These are just a couple little fake leaf/acorn bundles from the dollar store, but they work great! And of course, the little baby pumpkins from Target.

SPOOKY TABLE

That’s just a little glimpse, mostly because I don’t have many “displays.” There’s little pumpkins here and there all around the apartment, but these are the main areas of focus!

How do you decorate your house? Send me pictures! Tell me! I’m always down to go bigger and better…!

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Day 14: Self Care Sunday: What to do when you just can’t shake it

Once again, I have to apologize for disappearing briefly. Y’all, I’ve been a straight up MESS, with this insane sinus infection, and grad school finals (I’m in a really intense program where classes are only 8 weeks) and work and literally just attempting to function. Which brings me to today’s (late) post…

What do you do when you just can’t shake it? You know what I’m talking about. You get in that mood where everything is wrong. You’re stressed out. You’re busy. You start neglecting things like sleep, and proper nutrition, and working out, and you just can’t lose the funk, no matter how many self help books you read. Guess what? It’s okay.

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TIP: sometimes looking at cute lil animals cheers me up in the moment!

Of course, I’d like to say that if you are in such a state that you literally cannot function (as in get out of bed, shower, leave the house, go to work, complete basic tasks, etc.) on any level, you may actually be dealing with a clinical mental illness such as depression, and you should seek professional help immediately.

The funk I’m talking about here is when you’re just feeling kind of “meh” about everything and can’t seem to get yourself on a roll again. Sometimes, the first step is just acknowledging these feelings are here and this is happening. Okay, yeah, maybe I am stressed. I haven’t been sleeping. I haven’t been eating well. I haven’t been taking care of myself. What can I do about it?

Start with just the basics. Look at your week right now. Is there anything you can step back from just for the moment? Cancel a weekly coffee date? Ask your friend at work to pick up your shift? Set aside a chunk of time for just YOU. Then, start restructuring things so that you can manage to squeeze in enough sleep. This is so important. Even if it means not making your 4:30 am workout, or closing down netflix early. Sleep is vital.

Yes, I know there are still other things going on in your life, but if you’re overwhelmed, trying to fix everything at once won’t work. Pick certain things. First, start getting enough sleep. Then, focus on feeding yourself more fruits and veggies. Then, start finding time to add a workout in.

I also like to try to put in little acts of self care throughout my day to try to get myself more excited and feeling better. Using a nice body scrub in the shower, putting on my really soft PJ’s at night, snuggling up with my favorite blanket and some tea, lighting candles. Just something that makes me feel special.

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Tea? Fuzzy socks? Sounds good.

And remember, everything comes to an end. You will not feel like this forever. It sucks right now, but it will come to an end. Put your health first. There is nothing heroic or poetic about being miserable and about to burn out. I’ve found that to be such an overwhelming idea within our culture, that we fight to see who is neglecting themselves more. That’s a post for a different time though.

Sleep. Nutrition. Exercise. Self Care. Be gentle with yourself. Again, if you cannot function, if you are in more than just a “meh-feeling-funk,” you may be dealing with a clinical mental illness. Please seek professional help immediately to determine what is going on.

Thanks for reading guys! I promise, I’ll try to be more on top of things.  I only have one final left & then my new round of classes starts,  so hopefully I’ll be less insane. I’m also trying to input some of these tips in my own life LOL! We’ll see what happens!

 

 

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Blogtober Day 6: Q: Is blogging a stressor or a stress relief?

Hello again,

Lately this question has been running around in my mind about whether blogging is more stressful than it is helpful. I mean, think about it. It’s a time committment, it takes a lot of creativity and practice, it’s definitely an act of effort.

So then why do it? If you’re already stressed and busy, why keep something else on the plate? That’s time you could be sleeping, or working on another project (like the forgotten novel in my harddrive…), or doing any number of things. So why blogging?

After thinking, I realized that my blog is truly a stress relief for me. Yes, it takes time, but it allows me to have this window of time where I am doing something I still deem productive, but I’m not stressed about (as opposed to doing homework). It’s just for fun. There’s no stakes. This isn’t my livelihood. It’s just something that lets me take a breather and share some funny stories with the world. And by world, I mean my Grandma, who is the MVP and reads literally every single one of these and comments because she’s the most wonderful woman in the world and I’m so blessed to have her (HI GRANDMA I LOVE YOU!!).

This is all stuff I enjoy. I love exploring different ideas about happiness and self love and the psychology of humans. I love the fall. I love beauty and lifestyle content. I love connecting with people and making new friends, and truly I have met some wonderful people through the short time I’ve been blogging. It’s just FUN.

It also helps you to learn how to make mistakes. If I miss a post, I learn not to beat myself up over it. I just write it the next day, and keep going. If my content isn’t perfect, I have to remind myself that perfection isn’t an attainable standard and whatever I can do is ENOUGH.

This sounds so bizarre, but it’s really therapeutic in a way! So if you’re considering starting a blog, you should! I think you’ll be surprised at what it can do for you. And of course if you need any support just let me know! I’d love to chat!

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Blogtober Day 5: FALL CLEANING CHECKLIST

Hey hey hey!

Now that fall is officially underway, I’m getting the itch to start doing some fall cleaning. To me, this is almost more exciting than spring cleaning. Fall cleaning means getting your house nice and cozy and ready for the chilly weather. Just thinking about colder weather and falling leaves makes me want to gut my entire house and polish the woodwork.

For each season, I like to make a cleaning checklist of various tasks I want to get done for the start of the season. If anyone out there is a psychopath like I am and wants to use this checklist for their own house, feel free to do so!

fall cleaning.jpgORGANIZATION/DECLUTTERING:

~ Go through summer and fall wardrobes. Get rid of any items you didn’t wear over the summer, and any you know you won’t wear going into fall.
~ Do the same thing with your shoes
~ Declutter and organize the desktop and desk drawers. Throw out old bills (already paid), old receipts, anything you not longer need. Anything you do need, file.
~ Do a good, thorough room organization. Dresser drawers, side tables, bins of clothing and odds and ends. You’d be surprised how badly you need it.
~ Go through your refrigerator and be sure you don’t have any bad leftovers, expired food, etc.
~ Go through your bathroom and get rid of any products you no longer use or that have expired.
~ Look in each room carefully. Is there a storage crisis you’re having? Identify key problems. Maybe your jewelry never stays organized, or your t-shirt drawer gets messed up, or you can’t keep a neat pantry. Identify the problem, and find a solution to fix it.

CLEANING:

~ Sweep and mop (or vacuum) all your floors.
~ Wipe down the windows and windowsills. It might be the last time you think about it until it gets warmer.
~ Wipe down all the radiators to get rid of the dust in preparation to start using them.
~ Wash all your sheets and put fresh ones on the beds.
~ Wash all blankets or pillows or anything that doesn’t get a lot of love if it happens to need it.
~ Do a solid scrub down of both the kitchen and the bathroom.
~ Scrub down surfaces so everything looks nice and shiny and clean.

MISC:

~ Clean out your email inboxes and delete any old emails you don’t need. Respond to and file the rest.
~ Do a solid sort-through of everything on your phone. Delete anything taking up storage you don’t need, or transfer it to a google drive.
~ Take a mental assesment. What in your life is causing you stress or anxiety? Certain people? An aspect of work? Lack of time management? Identify the problem, and come up with a solution, whether it be making time for meditation every day, investing in a planner, or seeking professional help of a counselor.
~ Take stock of anything you might need personally. As well as equipping your home, it’s about equipping yourself! Maybe your workout routine needs some love. Maybe you desperately need a new hairdryer and you’ve been putting it off. Maybe that DIY project has been sitting in the corner for months. Wrap some things up and find NEW BEGINNINGS!
~ Take the house plants inside for the season and find them a new home.

That’s the essence of what I have. Of course, I always end up adding some weird obscure things at the last minute, like organizing the bookshelf, or categorizing the pantry, but that’s the skeleton outline of my list.

What’s on yours?! Honestly, I’m so open to suggestion. I love this kind of stuff. HA! Until tomorrow!

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Blogtober Day 4: FALL BUCKET LIST!!

Hey what’s up hello,

Happy Blogtober Day 4! For some reason, my days keep escaping me, and I keep not getting to these posts until the evening, so I’m going to try to turn that around. SORRY.

Anyway, I thought it might be fun to swap fall bucket lists! I’ve already gotten started on a bit of mine, but I’m always open to adapting it, so if you have anything you think I should add, let me know!

fall bucket list

I’ve done a few of these already, like apple picking, taking cute fall pictures, going away for the weekend, and going on a brunch date, but I’m planning to knock off a few more this weekend!

What’s on your fall bucket list? Share with me!

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Blogtober Day 3: October 3rd Celebration

What is the significance, you ask, of October 3rd? Well, there’s a lot of things, and I’ll tell you all of them right now.

Firstly, it is two years from the day that my first ever college theater show opened (you know, the same one I met my fiance doing). It is also two years from my WEDDING DAY. Yeah, I’m still really excited, as you can tell.

It is also National Mean Girls Day!! Mean Girls was one of my favorite movies as a teenager, and to this day my cousin (one of my best friends) and I still wear pink and wish each other a Happy October 3rd every single year. Because this October 3rd falls on a Wednesday, it’s especially important that we celebrate. This is just a goofy little post, but I’m having fun, so bear with me. And now, some ideas for how to celebrate October 3rd.

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1. Wear pink.

This one seems pretty obvious, but WEAR SOME PINK! It can be any pink, from a cardigan to Damian’s bright pink polo, but wearing pink will definitely get you in the right mood.

2. Watch Mean Girls.

Duh! Again, an obvious choice, but it’s just the perfect day for it! It’ll give you nostalgia like you won’t believe- trust me.

3. Eat cheese fries.

Come on, you’ve got to remember this classic line: “Whatever, I’m getting cheese fries.” Straight from the lips of the Queen Bee herself, Regina George. So today, you should totally get yourself some cheese fries, and eat them while wearing pink, and watching Mean Girls. It’s the ultimate trio.

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4. Sing your own rendition of “Beautiful” by Christina Aguilera, or learn the choreography to “Jingle Bell Rock”. 

It’s one of the most iconic scenes in the movie, so it makes sense you would want to do one of these two things before the day ends. Maybe do both. I would learn the choreography, but I already know the entire thing, and I’m not ashamed to admit that.

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So there we have it. Clearly, October 3rd is a very special day to me for a multitude of reasons, but even if this wasn’t my wedding date, I’d still be celebrating Mean Girls Day. If anyone sees Tina Fey and wants to direct her to this post, that would be great. I think we’d be great friends.