How to Make it FEEL like Fall (For When You’re Feeling Impatient)

Hey y’all,

So, if you’re anything like me, you are READY for the autumn season. Your decorations are out, you’ve made your fall bucket list, you’re burning cozy candles…and it’s eighty degrees outside in the midst of a hurricane.

Huh.

Yeah, I wasn’t happy about it either as I purchased my pumpkin spice cheerios wearing a short sleeve flamingo t-shirt and flip flops. SO, I’ve been trying to at least transition into fall in my apartment, even if the outside world hasn’t gotten on board yet. Need some ideas? Keep reading.

1. DECORATE!

I’m eventually going to do an entire post on this, but for now, all I’ll say is PULL OUT THE DECORATIONS! I went through the box in the closet, pulled out the stuff from last year, and then I went to the dollar section at Target and bought MORE. It’s affordable, it’s easy, and it really gets you in that spooky autumn mood.

2. Burn a cozy candle.

If you aren’t feeling SUPER cozy (because of the heat), just burn something that has the word “harvest/fall/autumn/maple/leaves/harvest” in its name, and that should do nicely. Again, Target has these pretty mild candles for something like $3. Also, the Yankee Candle scent “Sunset Fields” I’ve found is really good for moving between summer and autumn.

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This just makes me wanna curl up with a book and a PSL! 

3. Put on an acoustic playlist.

This is my FALL MUSIC! I love acoustics in the fall, and sometimes, just turning on one of Spotify’s premade playlists makes all the difference. One of my favorite YouTubers, Kalyn Nicholson, also has a fall acoustic playlist I’ve been LOVING called “youtober”.

4. Bake!

Baking in general helps me get in the fall mood, but baking something with pumpkin, or cinnamon REALLY gets me there. Obviously, if your house is super hot you might not want to turn on the oven, but if you really want to get in the fall swing of things, baking is a relaxing, delicious way to do that.

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Those are my top tips for making it FEEL like fall even when it’s not! I’m trying to be patient too; I can’t wait for chillly weather, sweaters, and pumpkin spice 24/7. Summer, it’s been real, but I think it’s time we part ways.

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How To STOP Caring So Much About What Other People Think!

Hey everybody!

On Monday, I talked about why we all care so much what other people think about us. Not that I have an exact explanation, but I have my theories. I felt like it only made sense to follow up with how to STOP caring about what other people think.

Disclaimer: I do NOT have this down pat. I definitely still care way too much, and I hate that I do, but these are some things that I do when I catch myself being too aware of the rest of the world.

1. Remind yourself of the people whose opinions actually matter.

This is a smaller list than you think. Of course, the only one who actually has to be happy with yourself is you, and you are entitled to cut out any toxic people who make you feel badly, and no one is allowed to tell you how to live your life. That being said, there are a few people whose opinions I value, and genuinely care what they think and have to say, and I try to live my life in a way that they will respect and be proud of. Just as an example, here’s my list:
-God. My parents. My grandparents.  My boyfriend. My best friends.

Yeah, that’s it. The guy sitting in traffic next to me? The couple in front of me in line at the store? The girls in my class? Doesn’t matter. Decide on your own list, and run through it in your mind in moments you find yourself caring too much about how you appear.

2. Ask yourself what consequence you’re really trying to avoid.

If this random person is actually judging you as you think they are, what’s the consequence of that? What exactly are you trying to avoid? Are you afraid of being ridiculed publicly? Are you afraid of people talking badly behind your back? Are you afraid of losing friends? Are you just afraid of that judgy thought existing in someone’s mind? Try to really narrow it down. And then…

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Okay, so the thought process doesn’t have to be THIS in depth, but you get the idea! 

3. Ask yourself if that consequence would really be so bad.

Being ridiculed in public would be really embarrassing, but would your life end, or would you be afraid to leave your house? If people are talking badly about you behind your back, are they really the petty, negative individuals you want to be impacting your life? Because they probably aren’t giving what you think of them a second thought. If your friends would abandon you over whatever decision you’re trying to make, are they really the supportive, loving people you need in your life anyway? Do you see where this is all going?

4. DON’T STOP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING! 

This can manifest in a number of ways, but all of them definitely require stepping out of your comfort zone, so get ready. If you’re worried about people judging you for listening to Hannah Montana at top volume with your windows down, resist the urge to side glance at drivers next to you and turn the radio lower. Just keep rocking out and ignoring. On the other end, if you’re worried about people judging you for leaving a graduate school program, but you’re sure the decision is right for you, then just make it. Everyone will get over it, and that decision impacts YOUR life, NOT theirs.

It’s a lot of self-analysis, a lot of self-awareness, and a lot of stepping out of your comfort zone, but going through this thought process tends to help me when I’m really caught up with the world around me. This is exactly what I was going through when I was trying to decide if I wanted to start a blog. I ultimately decided it was worth it, put on my big girl pants, and said screw everyone else, I’m trying something new. And guess what? The world is still turning, I still exist, and everything is pretty okay.

I hope that was somewhat helpful! Let me know what you think, or if you have anything you do to help you stop caring so much about people’s opinions!

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I know this is cheesy, okay, I just felt like it was necessary.

Why Do We All Care So Much What Other People Think?!

Hey everyone,

Today’s post is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I’ve been doing a lot of self work, and in my attempt to be more self aware, I realized I care WAY too much about what other people think. Like, WAY too much. Once I was aware of it, it seemed like every single move I made I was doing with the thought of what everyone would think.

And by everyone, I mean EVERYONE. My best friend, my boyfriend, my instagram followers, my next door neighbor, the people in line behind me at Target, all my facebook friends, the girls I went to high school with whom I haven’t spoken to in years. And you know the worst part? I couldn’t figure out why I cared!

I mean, think about it. Really think about it. What difference does it truly make if a few of your followers think you’re a dork? Or if the girl behind you in Target is prettier than you and makes you feel awkward? What if someone else notices? None of that stuff matters!

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This is what I always tell myself whenever I get too caught up in people’s opinions!

And so why do we all care? Is it social media? Is it just that we as humans have an inherent need to be liked and included? Maybe a bit of both? That’s what my money is on. Humans like to belong. We like to feel included. We like to know that we are liked and supported. And no matter how many times you say you don’t care, you do at heart, even a little, because I guarantee you still run decisions by your friends. Why? Because you want them to approve and remain your friends.

Really think about it. Start to notice your own thought process, and you’ll see how many times a day you wonder what the people around you are thinking. And honestly ask yourself why. I know that I want everyone to like me, and I need to get used to the fact that not everyone will. That’s just how life works.

We as a population put way too much stock into what the rest of the world thinks–myself more than most people–but we never really stop to think exactly why it’s important to us, and what would happen if we just stopped noticing.

So, think about that a little. Sit with it. Let it make you uncomfortable, I’ll be back Wednesday, and we can chat about it some more.