BLOGTOBER, Uncategorized

Blogtober Day 30: My Everyday Fall Makeup

Coming to a close soon, AH! I figured for this post I’d try something really new; I’ve been seeing a bunch of people do this lately, and I wanted to give it a go, so I’m sharing with you my everyday fall makeup. I am not a super talented makeup artist, I literally just like not looking like a goblin when I leave my house everyay. I’d like to get better, but for now, I’m just pretty average. Still going to share it anyway, but just with the disclaimer that it’s pretty average.

Most days I use my Urban Decay Ultimate Basics palette, which just has a bunch of really beautiful matte colors (Thanks for the best Christmas gift ever, Gab!!!). Even when it varies based on specific shades, the essence of what I do everyday is the same. What can I say, I’m a creature of habit.

So here’s an eye makeup-less Kate. I am wearing foundation, and I combed out my eyebrows and such, but that’s about it.

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It’s a really easy look, okay? First, I just put a light champagne across my lid and in my inner corners (in the palette it’s called Blow), and then go over the outer half of my lid with matte peachy brown (called Nudie). I take a medium, warm matte brown (Faith) into my crease, but not too exact. It’s more of a widespread sweep of color. Then, I use a dark matte brown directly into my crease in almost a harsher line to make it stand out more (but it’s not actually harsh? I told you I was bad at this). Usually I drag a little of that color down on my lower lashline too.

Then I usually do some really thin eyeliner and a couple coats of mascara, and we end up here:

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I usually do bronzer, blush, and a highlight most days because I’m an extra bitch, but that’s just me. So I’ll do a quick all over bronze, a light blush on the apples of my cheeks, and a highlight on my cheekbones, brow bones, tip of my nose, and cupid’s bow. Then I put on whatever lipstick I’m feeling that day, and that’s pretty much it. (Yesterday I was really feeling like an extra bitch so I went with my new, super dark violet-red lip).

And that’s basically it!
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It’s not a super crazy look, it’s not hard, and I’m terrible at taking these pictures, BUT I tried something new that made me a little uncomfy so we are just going to roll with it and that’s that.

Anyway, I’ll talk to y’all tomorrow for the LAST day of Blogtober! WOW!

Soul Food, Uncategorized

How To STOP Caring So Much About What Other People Think!

Hey everybody!

On Monday, I talked about why we all care so much what other people think about us. Not that I have an exact explanation, but I have my theories. I felt like it only made sense to follow up with how to STOP caring about what other people think.

Disclaimer: I do NOT have this down pat. I definitely still care way too much, and I hate that I do, but these are some things that I do when I catch myself being too aware of the rest of the world.

1. Remind yourself of the people whose opinions actually matter.

This is a smaller list than you think. Of course, the only one who actually has to be happy with yourself is you, and you are entitled to cut out any toxic people who make you feel badly, and no one is allowed to tell you how to live your life. That being said, there are a few people whose opinions I value, and genuinely care what they think and have to say, and I try to live my life in a way that they will respect and be proud of. Just as an example, here’s my list:
-God. My parents. My grandparents.  My boyfriend. My best friends.

Yeah, that’s it. The guy sitting in traffic next to me? The couple in front of me in line at the store? The girls in my class? Doesn’t matter. Decide on your own list, and run through it in your mind in moments you find yourself caring too much about how you appear.

2. Ask yourself what consequence you’re really trying to avoid.

If this random person is actually judging you as you think they are, what’s the consequence of that? What exactly are you trying to avoid? Are you afraid of being ridiculed publicly? Are you afraid of people talking badly behind your back? Are you afraid of losing friends? Are you just afraid of that judgy thought existing in someone’s mind? Try to really narrow it down. And then…

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Okay, so the thought process doesn’t have to be THIS in depth, but you get the idea! 

3. Ask yourself if that consequence would really be so bad.

Being ridiculed in public would be really embarrassing, but would your life end, or would you be afraid to leave your house? If people are talking badly about you behind your back, are they really the petty, negative individuals you want to be impacting your life? Because they probably aren’t giving what you think of them a second thought. If your friends would abandon you over whatever decision you’re trying to make, are they really the supportive, loving people you need in your life anyway? Do you see where this is all going?

4. DON’T STOP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING! 

This can manifest in a number of ways, but all of them definitely require stepping out of your comfort zone, so get ready. If you’re worried about people judging you for listening to Hannah Montana at top volume with your windows down, resist the urge to side glance at drivers next to you and turn the radio lower. Just keep rocking out and ignoring. On the other end, if you’re worried about people judging you for leaving a graduate school program, but you’re sure the decision is right for you, then just make it. Everyone will get over it, and that decision impacts YOUR life, NOT theirs.

It’s a lot of self-analysis, a lot of self-awareness, and a lot of stepping out of your comfort zone, but going through this thought process tends to help me when I’m really caught up with the world around me. This is exactly what I was going through when I was trying to decide if I wanted to start a blog. I ultimately decided it was worth it, put on my big girl pants, and said screw everyone else, I’m trying something new. And guess what? The world is still turning, I still exist, and everything is pretty okay.

I hope that was somewhat helpful! Let me know what you think, or if you have anything you do to help you stop caring so much about people’s opinions!

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I know this is cheesy, okay, I just felt like it was necessary.
Self Care Sunday, Uncategorized

Self Care Sunday: Recent Self Care & Intentions

Hey party people,

Happy Sunday! Something about Sundays is just so relaxing. Maybe it’s just the long time association of Sunday being a “day of rest,” honestly I’m not sure. To me, Sundays tend to be a good day to reflect, clean, and just generally get my life together.

I also really like to emphasize self care on Sundays, which is why I’m beginning this series called Self Care Sunday, where I’ll discuss one aspect of self care each week. This week, since it’s the first, I’m just going to reflect on my own recent efforts in self care and what I could be doing better.

Something I’ve been really emphasizing, as someone who is perpetually busy, is letting myself slow down and not having to cram my days full of useless tasks if I really don’t have much to do. It’s letting myself meditate, light candles, read a book, and essentially just give my body and soul whatever it needs at the time.

Today, for instance, I feel awful. Undecided if it’s allergies or me getting sick, but self care for me means listening to myself. Sure, I could clean the kitchen, change my rat’s bedding, clean my bedroom, do some homework, work on some events for work, etc. Instead, I recognized how awful I was feeling. I took a really hot shower. I drank some tea. I snuggled on the couch with my boyfriend and watched Beauty and the Beast. I’m typing this blog post, and then I’ll probably read a book, watch some Netflix, or take a nap. Do I have things I could be doing immediately? Sure, but I could also do them early tomorrow morning when I’ll hopefully feel better and just let myself have today.

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honestly, this is basically what I look like today.  I’m not even sorry.

So that’s my focus for this week. It’s important to love yourself and treat yourself well, and make allowances for yourself. You would tell a friend to take it easy and be kind to themselves, so you should be doing the same for yourself.

Alright, I’m off to start a book (or maybe a new Netflix series). Talk to you soon!