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Blogtober Day 19: The Little Things

Happy Blogtober Day 19! We’re definitely getting up there; I can’t believe October is almost OVER! I’m a little sad, but I also love the holidays, so I’m not reaaaally super mad.

Anyway, this is going to be kind of a short little baby post, but I really was just FEELING it, you know? I’ve been really appreciating fall lately and I really just wanted to sit and make a list of all the little things I’ve seen lately that have just made me really grateful for being alive.

When I started thinking about that, I started thinking about how cliche it sounds, but how important it is. Whenever I get too stressed, Bobby tells me to just BREATHE. Stay in the moment, recognize where you are and what you’re doing, and be mindful. It’s great advice, and we should all take it more often. When I take the time to appreciate the little things around me, it makes me an all around more mindful, happy person.

We have such a tendency to get caught up in whatever is going on- work stressors, relationshps, filling our already cluttered schedules with emails and phone calls and coffee dates where we anxiously check the clock the whole time to makes sure we’re not late for our next appointment…we never actually get to ENJOY anything.

So, this week I’ve been making a special effort to really notice and appreciate all of the teeny little things the universe has to offer. Sort of like the world is saying, “Hey, look. It’ll be okay.” Here’s a few examples of things I’ve stopped to notice and appreciate over the past week:

  • a perfectly shaded,  bright red, yellow, and green leaf just laying in the grocery store parking lot. Literally looked like someone had pulled it off the shelf at Michael’s. It was PERFECT.
  • the shade of blue the sky turns right around 9 am when I leave the gym
  • the Glade “Cozy Autumn Cuddle” candle. I buy one (two) every single year and burn through them.
  •  that really nice in-between weather where the air is crisp and chilly, but the sun is shining down, so the entire outdoor climate is just in perfect equilibrium
  • the moment when you first wake up in the morning before you open your eyes where there’s just total peace as you float between asleep and awake
  • a really good, long, belly laugh with your best friends. The kind where you laugh until you can’t breathe and you’re crying and your stomach hurts.
  • the colors of the trees driving down the Merritt Parkway (Connecticut is BEAUTIFUL in the fall. New England does not play.)

I guarantee there will be more, but these are just a few things that make me really happy when I see them and just kind of give me a really good feeling about being alive.

Share with me some of the fun little things that bring you joy in your life! I’d love to hear them!

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Blogtober Day 18: My Spooky Apartment!

It’s the time of year for the best part of holidays…DECORATING! My roommate & I have a box of miscellaneous holiday decorations in the closet (I’ll admit Christmas is overflowing to other places) and I love getting to open it and see all the cool things I forgot we had. Of course, I always end up buying more every year, so God Bless Bobby because we’re going to have to have an entire room in our house for all my themed items (Love you babe).

I thought it would be fun to share some of the things that I use to decorate my apartment! I love seeing everyone else’s decorations, so I’m here to hop on the bandwagon!

First is my FAVORITE! I have basically the coolest relatives alive, so one of them sent me this HALLOWEEN SLOTH BLANKET (Shirley you are my HERO), and I literally carry this thing around my apartment with me. I use it at night, at my desk, on my couch, like EVERYWHERE. I’ll honestly keep using it after Halloween, but right now it makes me feel so festive.

SPOOKY BED

NEXT: Spooky candles, spooky Target pumpkins…I’ve definitely shown this before on here, but it’s still one of my favorite setups. And it has changed- my plant babies had to come inside because it’s cold! Also, that candle is called Crisp Fall Night, and it’s so wonderful that I’m burning it without Bobby even though it’s “our” candle. (Sorry not sorry).

SPOOKY NIGHTSTAND

So, most of this stuff is actually here year round, like the little hedgehogs/bat, the black statue, the letters (my roommate & my sorority), and the skeleton succulent, but honestly they fit in so well with all the holiday decor. The vase I threw together today by shoving the little pumpkin garland into a vase; it was too tangled to unknot and hang, so I figured this was a good repurpose. These are just a couple little fake leaf/acorn bundles from the dollar store, but they work great! And of course, the little baby pumpkins from Target.

SPOOKY TABLE

That’s just a little glimpse, mostly because I don’t have many “displays.” There’s little pumpkins here and there all around the apartment, but these are the main areas of focus!

How do you decorate your house? Send me pictures! Tell me! I’m always down to go bigger and better…!

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Day 14: Self Care Sunday: What to do when you just can’t shake it

Once again, I have to apologize for disappearing briefly. Y’all, I’ve been a straight up MESS, with this insane sinus infection, and grad school finals (I’m in a really intense program where classes are only 8 weeks) and work and literally just attempting to function. Which brings me to today’s (late) post…

What do you do when you just can’t shake it? You know what I’m talking about. You get in that mood where everything is wrong. You’re stressed out. You’re busy. You start neglecting things like sleep, and proper nutrition, and working out, and you just can’t lose the funk, no matter how many self help books you read. Guess what? It’s okay.

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TIP: sometimes looking at cute lil animals cheers me up in the moment!

Of course, I’d like to say that if you are in such a state that you literally cannot function (as in get out of bed, shower, leave the house, go to work, complete basic tasks, etc.) on any level, you may actually be dealing with a clinical mental illness such as depression, and you should seek professional help immediately.

The funk I’m talking about here is when you’re just feeling kind of “meh” about everything and can’t seem to get yourself on a roll again. Sometimes, the first step is just acknowledging these feelings are here and this is happening. Okay, yeah, maybe I am stressed. I haven’t been sleeping. I haven’t been eating well. I haven’t been taking care of myself. What can I do about it?

Start with just the basics. Look at your week right now. Is there anything you can step back from just for the moment? Cancel a weekly coffee date? Ask your friend at work to pick up your shift? Set aside a chunk of time for just YOU. Then, start restructuring things so that you can manage to squeeze in enough sleep. This is so important. Even if it means not making your 4:30 am workout, or closing down netflix early. Sleep is vital.

Yes, I know there are still other things going on in your life, but if you’re overwhelmed, trying to fix everything at once won’t work. Pick certain things. First, start getting enough sleep. Then, focus on feeding yourself more fruits and veggies. Then, start finding time to add a workout in.

I also like to try to put in little acts of self care throughout my day to try to get myself more excited and feeling better. Using a nice body scrub in the shower, putting on my really soft PJ’s at night, snuggling up with my favorite blanket and some tea, lighting candles. Just something that makes me feel special.

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Tea? Fuzzy socks? Sounds good.

And remember, everything comes to an end. You will not feel like this forever. It sucks right now, but it will come to an end. Put your health first. There is nothing heroic or poetic about being miserable and about to burn out. I’ve found that to be such an overwhelming idea within our culture, that we fight to see who is neglecting themselves more. That’s a post for a different time though.

Sleep. Nutrition. Exercise. Self Care. Be gentle with yourself. Again, if you cannot function, if you are in more than just a “meh-feeling-funk,” you may be dealing with a clinical mental illness. Please seek professional help immediately to determine what is going on.

Thanks for reading guys! I promise, I’ll try to be more on top of things.  I only have one final left & then my new round of classes starts,  so hopefully I’ll be less insane. I’m also trying to input some of these tips in my own life LOL! We’ll see what happens!

 

 

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How to Make it FEEL like Fall (For When You’re Feeling Impatient)

Hey y’all,

So, if you’re anything like me, you are READY for the autumn season. Your decorations are out, you’ve made your fall bucket list, you’re burning cozy candles…and it’s eighty degrees outside in the midst of a hurricane.

Huh.

Yeah, I wasn’t happy about it either as I purchased my pumpkin spice cheerios wearing a short sleeve flamingo t-shirt and flip flops. SO, I’ve been trying to at least transition into fall in my apartment, even if the outside world hasn’t gotten on board yet. Need some ideas? Keep reading.

1. DECORATE!

I’m eventually going to do an entire post on this, but for now, all I’ll say is PULL OUT THE DECORATIONS! I went through the box in the closet, pulled out the stuff from last year, and then I went to the dollar section at Target and bought MORE. It’s affordable, it’s easy, and it really gets you in that spooky autumn mood.

2. Burn a cozy candle.

If you aren’t feeling SUPER cozy (because of the heat), just burn something that has the word “harvest/fall/autumn/maple/leaves/harvest” in its name, and that should do nicely. Again, Target has these pretty mild candles for something like $3. Also, the Yankee Candle scent “Sunset Fields” I’ve found is really good for moving between summer and autumn.

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This just makes me wanna curl up with a book and a PSL! 

3. Put on an acoustic playlist.

This is my FALL MUSIC! I love acoustics in the fall, and sometimes, just turning on one of Spotify’s premade playlists makes all the difference. One of my favorite YouTubers, Kalyn Nicholson, also has a fall acoustic playlist I’ve been LOVING called “youtober”.

4. Bake!

Baking in general helps me get in the fall mood, but baking something with pumpkin, or cinnamon REALLY gets me there. Obviously, if your house is super hot you might not want to turn on the oven, but if you really want to get in the fall swing of things, baking is a relaxing, delicious way to do that.

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Those are my top tips for making it FEEL like fall even when it’s not! I’m trying to be patient too; I can’t wait for chillly weather, sweaters, and pumpkin spice 24/7. Summer, it’s been real, but I think it’s time we part ways.