Day 14: Self Care Sunday: What to do when you just can’t shake it

Once again, I have to apologize for disappearing briefly. Y’all, I’ve been a straight up MESS, with this insane sinus infection, and grad school finals (I’m in a really intense program where classes are only 8 weeks) and work and literally just attempting to function. Which brings me to today’s (late) post…

What do you do when you just can’t shake it? You know what I’m talking about. You get in that mood where everything is wrong. You’re stressed out. You’re busy. You start neglecting things like sleep, and proper nutrition, and working out, and you just can’t lose the funk, no matter how many self help books you read. Guess what? It’s okay.

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TIP: sometimes looking at cute lil animals cheers me up in the moment!

Of course, I’d like to say that if you are in such a state that you literally cannot function (as in get out of bed, shower, leave the house, go to work, complete basic tasks, etc.) on any level, you may actually be dealing with a clinical mental illness such as depression, and you should seek professional help immediately.

The funk I’m talking about here is when you’re just feeling kind of “meh” about everything and can’t seem to get yourself on a roll again. Sometimes, the first step is just acknowledging these feelings are here and this is happening. Okay, yeah, maybe I am stressed. I haven’t been sleeping. I haven’t been eating well. I haven’t been taking care of myself. What can I do about it?

Start with just the basics. Look at your week right now. Is there anything you can step back from just for the moment? Cancel a weekly coffee date? Ask your friend at work to pick up your shift? Set aside a chunk of time for just YOU. Then, start restructuring things so that you can manage to squeeze in enough sleep. This is so important. Even if it means not making your 4:30 am workout, or closing down netflix early. Sleep is vital.

Yes, I know there are still other things going on in your life, but if you’re overwhelmed, trying to fix everything at once won’t work. Pick certain things. First, start getting enough sleep. Then, focus on feeding yourself more fruits and veggies. Then, start finding time to add a workout in.

I also like to try to put in little acts of self care throughout my day to try to get myself more excited and feeling better. Using a nice body scrub in the shower, putting on my really soft PJ’s at night, snuggling up with my favorite blanket and some tea, lighting candles. Just something that makes me feel special.

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Tea? Fuzzy socks? Sounds good.

And remember, everything comes to an end. You will not feel like this forever. It sucks right now, but it will come to an end. Put your health first. There is nothing heroic or poetic about being miserable and about to burn out. I’ve found that to be such an overwhelming idea within our culture, that we fight to see who is neglecting themselves more. That’s a post for a different time though.

Sleep. Nutrition. Exercise. Self Care. Be gentle with yourself. Again, if you cannot function, if you are in more than just a “meh-feeling-funk,” you may be dealing with a clinical mental illness. Please seek professional help immediately to determine what is going on.

Thanks for reading guys! I promise, I’ll try to be more on top of things.  I only have one final left & then my new round of classes starts,  so hopefully I’ll be less insane. I’m also trying to input some of these tips in my own life LOL! We’ll see what happens!

 

 

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Blogtober Day 6: Q: Is blogging a stressor or a stress relief?

Hello again,

Lately this question has been running around in my mind about whether blogging is more stressful than it is helpful. I mean, think about it. It’s a time committment, it takes a lot of creativity and practice, it’s definitely an act of effort.

So then why do it? If you’re already stressed and busy, why keep something else on the plate? That’s time you could be sleeping, or working on another project (like the forgotten novel in my harddrive…), or doing any number of things. So why blogging?

After thinking, I realized that my blog is truly a stress relief for me. Yes, it takes time, but it allows me to have this window of time where I am doing something I still deem productive, but I’m not stressed about (as opposed to doing homework). It’s just for fun. There’s no stakes. This isn’t my livelihood. It’s just something that lets me take a breather and share some funny stories with the world. And by world, I mean my Grandma, who is the MVP and reads literally every single one of these and comments because she’s the most wonderful woman in the world and I’m so blessed to have her (HI GRANDMA I LOVE YOU!!).

This is all stuff I enjoy. I love exploring different ideas about happiness and self love and the psychology of humans. I love the fall. I love beauty and lifestyle content. I love connecting with people and making new friends, and truly I have met some wonderful people through the short time I’ve been blogging. It’s just FUN.

It also helps you to learn how to make mistakes. If I miss a post, I learn not to beat myself up over it. I just write it the next day, and keep going. If my content isn’t perfect, I have to remind myself that perfection isn’t an attainable standard and whatever I can do is ENOUGH.

This sounds so bizarre, but it’s really therapeutic in a way! So if you’re considering starting a blog, you should! I think you’ll be surprised at what it can do for you. And of course if you need any support just let me know! I’d love to chat!

Blogtober Day 4: FALL BUCKET LIST!!

Hey what’s up hello,

Happy Blogtober Day 4! For some reason, my days keep escaping me, and I keep not getting to these posts until the evening, so I’m going to try to turn that around. SORRY.

Anyway, I thought it might be fun to swap fall bucket lists! I’ve already gotten started on a bit of mine, but I’m always open to adapting it, so if you have anything you think I should add, let me know!

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I’ve done a few of these already, like apple picking, taking cute fall pictures, going away for the weekend, and going on a brunch date, but I’m planning to knock off a few more this weekend!

What’s on your fall bucket list? Share with me!

Blogtober Day 3: October 3rd Celebration

What is the significance, you ask, of October 3rd? Well, there’s a lot of things, and I’ll tell you all of them right now.

Firstly, it is two years from the day that my first ever college theater show opened (you know, the same one I met my fiance doing). It is also two years from my WEDDING DAY. Yeah, I’m still really excited, as you can tell.

It is also National Mean Girls Day!! Mean Girls was one of my favorite movies as a teenager, and to this day my cousin (one of my best friends) and I still wear pink and wish each other a Happy October 3rd every single year. Because this October 3rd falls on a Wednesday, it’s especially important that we celebrate. This is just a goofy little post, but I’m having fun, so bear with me. And now, some ideas for how to celebrate October 3rd.

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1. Wear pink.

This one seems pretty obvious, but WEAR SOME PINK! It can be any pink, from a cardigan to Damian’s bright pink polo, but wearing pink will definitely get you in the right mood.

2. Watch Mean Girls.

Duh! Again, an obvious choice, but it’s just the perfect day for it! It’ll give you nostalgia like you won’t believe- trust me.

3. Eat cheese fries.

Come on, you’ve got to remember this classic line: “Whatever, I’m getting cheese fries.” Straight from the lips of the Queen Bee herself, Regina George. So today, you should totally get yourself some cheese fries, and eat them while wearing pink, and watching Mean Girls. It’s the ultimate trio.

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4. Sing your own rendition of “Beautiful” by Christina Aguilera, or learn the choreography to “Jingle Bell Rock”. 

It’s one of the most iconic scenes in the movie, so it makes sense you would want to do one of these two things before the day ends. Maybe do both. I would learn the choreography, but I already know the entire thing, and I’m not ashamed to admit that.

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So there we have it. Clearly, October 3rd is a very special day to me for a multitude of reasons, but even if this wasn’t my wedding date, I’d still be celebrating Mean Girls Day. If anyone sees Tina Fey and wants to direct her to this post, that would be great. I think we’d be great friends.

HAPPY BLOGTOBER!

HAPPY MONDAY!

More importantly, Happy OCTOBER. Most importantly, HAPPY BLOGTOBER!

I have so many exciting posts planned for this month; I can’t wait for you to see them! We’ve got some Self Care Sundays, we’ve got some lifestyle focus, we’ve got a couple collaborations…y’all, it is going to be a GOOD TIME!

Here’s the gist: Every day in the month of October, I post a blog post. Some of them are spooky, some of them are fall-themed, some of them are just regular posts. It’s one post EVERY! DAY!

Is that a lot of work? Yes, but I’m honestly so here for it.

Y’all, I’m just really excited. I’ve been working super hard on this, and I’m so excited to really launch it.

Let me know what you think, what you’d like to see, and if you’re doing Blogtober! Send me links to either your blogs or blogs that you like to follow!

TALK TO YA TOMORROW!

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One Month Down: Grad School Reflections

Hey everyone!

For today’s post, I thought I’d take a look back at the last month that I’ve spent in grad school. I finished undergrad in May 2017, and I started a M.A. program this fall in public relations.

The program I’m in is only a year long, so it’s broken into modules instead of semesters, which makes it pretty intense. I’m not sure what exactly I was expecting, but it’s a combination of things. The program is really intense, and can be difficult. Some things I am really struggling with (like my Photoshop class). Other things I am genuinely enjoying to the point of them not feeling like assignments (like event planning and PR plans).

Time Management:
One thing I didn’t miss was how much time school takes up! There’s two nights of the week I spend in class, which doesn’t sound like much, but when you’re trying to cram everything into a day, the time slips by. I’ve definitely had to try to relearn time management. I was great at it in my undergrad, but nowadays I find myself struggling more.

One of the major things I’ve had to learn is that Rome wasn’t built in a day. I can’t do all of my homework, and complete assignments for work, and prep all my blog posts, and clean my house, and then go bartend or make it to class. I have to do a little bit each day, or dedicate one day to each pursuit. I’m still struggling with this idea, but I have to say I’m learning to accept it more.

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I’m OBSESSED with my Happy Planner! It helps keep me in line with everything I have going on. 

 

SELF CARE IS MANDATORY! 
I’m also learning how valuable time is. Why waste it watching hours of netflix when I could be prepping blog posts or working on a project? If I’m using my time for something else, it’s because I have made a conscious decision that it’s necessary self care. Watching one episode of a great show with a candle, or reading a magazine to relax. The couple hours I get in the morning to do devotionals and to go to the gym are KATE TIME and those are not negotiable things. Sometimes I have to verbally tell myself that I am only human, and I am allowed to spend time taking care of my body, mind, and soul.

Everything comes to an end.
Just as the good things unfortunately end, so does the stress. By August 2019, I will have a master’s degree. It’s less than a year,  and like I tell myself, you can do ANYTHING for a year. It’s just a matter of balance and willpower, and some days are harder than others, but I find that as long as I keep my eye on the light at the end of the tunnel, things feel a little lighter.

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These are my reflections so far. I’m about halfway through module 1, so we’ll see how I’m feeling come Thanksgiving/Christmas when I’m gearing toward the end of Module 2 (There’s 6 of them.)

Are you in grad school? Do you have any tips?! PLEASE let me know! Thanks!

ANNOUNCING: BLOGTOBER

Hello everyone!

Wow, sorry, my life has been a bit chaotic as of late, but I am BACK and hopefully getting more organized!

I just wanted to take a few minutes to announce something really cool that I’m really hyped about! I really want to get deeper into blogging, since it’s such a great creative outlet, and Lord knows I need some good stress relief. So I’ve decided that this upcoming month, I’m going to do BLOGTOBER!!

What is Blogtober, you ask? WELL, Blogtober is when we celebrate the month of October (one of the GREATEST) with a NEW BLOG POST EVERY SINGLE DAY!!!!!

I’m SO excited, and I have SO many ideas! I even wrote a blog post for a friend’s blog, so stay tuned for that.

Anyway, I hope you’ll stick around and read these, and if there’s anything in particular you’d like to see, LET ME KNOW!

Thanks! Talk to you soon!

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I’m as happy and smiley as this lil guy right here just thinking about this next month!!!