BLOGTOBER, Uncategorized

Blogtober Day 30: My Everyday Fall Makeup

Coming to a close soon, AH! I figured for this post I’d try something really new; I’ve been seeing a bunch of people do this lately, and I wanted to give it a go, so I’m sharing with you my everyday fall makeup. I am not a super talented makeup artist, I literally just like not looking like a goblin when I leave my house everyay. I’d like to get better, but for now, I’m just pretty average. Still going to share it anyway, but just with the disclaimer that it’s pretty average.

Most days I use my Urban Decay Ultimate Basics palette, which just has a bunch of really beautiful matte colors (Thanks for the best Christmas gift ever, Gab!!!). Even when it varies based on specific shades, the essence of what I do everyday is the same. What can I say, I’m a creature of habit.

So here’s an eye makeup-less Kate. I am wearing foundation, and I combed out my eyebrows and such, but that’s about it.


It’s a really easy look, okay? First, I just put a light champagne across my lid and in my inner corners (in the palette it’s called Blow), and then go over the outer half of my lid with matte peachy brown (called Nudie). I take a medium, warm matte brown (Faith) into my crease, but not too exact. It’s more of a widespread sweep of color. Then, I use a dark matte brown directly into my crease in almost a harsher line to make it stand out more (but it’s not actually harsh? I told you I was bad at this). Usually I drag a little of that color down on my lower lashline too.

Then I usually do some really thin eyeliner and a couple coats of mascara, and we end up here:


I usually do bronzer, blush, and a highlight most days because I’m an extra bitch, but that’s just me. So I’ll do a quick all over bronze, a light blush on the apples of my cheeks, and a highlight on my cheekbones, brow bones, tip of my nose, and cupid’s bow. Then I put on whatever lipstick I’m feeling that day, and that’s pretty much it. (Yesterday I was really feeling like an extra bitch so I went with my new, super dark violet-red lip).

And that’s basically it!

It’s not a super crazy look, it’s not hard, and I’m terrible at taking these pictures, BUT I tried something new that made me a little uncomfy so we are just going to roll with it and that’s that.

Anyway, I’ll talk to y’all tomorrow for the LAST day of Blogtober! WOW!

Self Care Sunday, Soul Food, Uncategorized

Self Care Sunday: Self Love Habits to Form

Hey y’all!

On Friday, we chatted about self-love at the core of what it is. Now, after emphasizing how cool and important it is, I thought it might be fun to give you some ideas of self-love habits to form to really make this a part of your everyday life!

These are things that I either already do or intend to implement in my life, so don’t worry; I’m not giving advice without taking it!

1. Make time for one act of self-care a day.

This is something I’m actively trying to implement in my life. You have to do ONE act of self care every single day. Could be as simple as taking time to read a few chapters of your favorite book and lighting a candle. Could be an intricate spa day with relaxing music and shopping. Doesn’t matter what it is, just so long as it gives you a nice break from the stresses of every day life.


2. Positive self talk.

This one always makes me feel a little ridiculous, but it usually helps. Whenver you’re beating yourself up about something, or you’re just being really harsh, talk yourself out of it. Literally. I will stand there and go, “Okay, STOP. We are NOT doing this.” Out loud. (Usually I’m alone.) Then, re-route that thought into something positive. “Maybe I don’t have a lot of energy to do things today, but that’s okay, because I work really hard, and sometimes I just need a break.” See?

3. Forgive yourself!

Tip number three! FORGIVE YOURSELF! This one is SO hard but SO necessary. Sometimes, you’ll mess up. You’ll screw up a work assignment, get a bad grade, eat something that doesn’t fall in your healthy lifestyle. IT IS OKAY! Humans make mistakes. What’s important is that you can go, “Okay, I screwed up. It’s okay. It doesn’t define me. What am I learning, and how can I do better next time?” Then just leave it. That’s it. Takes practice, but super valuable.

4. Do what you NEED, even if you’re not feeling it.

Sometimes, showing yourself self-love is eating that ice cream you’ve been craving even though it’s not super healthy. But sometimes, showing yourself self-love is dragging yourself out of bed to go move, be it a full workout, a stretch, or a walk. Sometimes it’s making sure you get all your veggies in for the day, and drink enough water, and get enough sleep. These aren’t always fun things, and they’re not always what we feel like doing, but our bodies CRAVE healthy habits, and by doing these, you’re loving your body enough to put in the extra effort so that it gets what it really deserves


So there you have it! Those are just four of my favorite ways to show your body self-love on a daily basis. What are some of things you like to do to keep your self-love rolling strong? Share in the comments below!

Soul Food, Uncategorized

What IS self-love, and why are we so obsessed with it?

We always hear all this talk about self-love and how important it is, but what exactly IS self-love? What constitutes as self-love? And why are we as a generation so obsessed with it?

I mean, think about it. Self-love wasn’t a term I heard until well into my college years. Self-love and self-care wasn’t something I grew up on, and I’m willing to bet most of you didn’t either.

Self-love at its core is defined simply as “regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristics).” Yes, I did google that, and yes I think it sums it up pretty well. Self-love is really just putting yourself first. Taking the time to do the things that make you happy, that put you in a good state of wellbeing (be it physical, mental, emotional), and that put you in the best place to take on life!

Self-love also means being kind to yourself. Not being too harsh on yourself for making mistakes, pep-talking yourself, and treating yourself now and again when you need it!

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All in all, self-love comes down to just truly taking care of yourself and being cognizant of all your needs. So why are we so obsessed with it today? It seems every time you turn around there’s a new article or post about how to show yourself a little bit of self-love. Maybe it stems from the new emotional and psychological awareness this generation seems to have. Millennials seem to be a lot more sensitive to the true state of our emotional affairs than generations prior were.

Think about it. The norm even as early as twenty years ago was to bury your emotions, to just get over it, and to not rock the boat, even at the risk of having to suppress some deep-seated trauma. I’ve asked my mom about this in the past, and the best answer she has is “That’s just how it was,” because that’s really all there is to it!

Now, thankfully, we have much more of an emphasis on lifting each other up, lifting ourselves up, and caring for the all around well-being of ourselves and others. I love the self-love movement, and I’ll be the first to admit I preach it to anyone and everyone. Here’s to continuing loving and caring for the wonderful person you are; whether you know it or not, YOU DESERVE IT!


Self Care Sunday, Uncategorized

Self Care Sunday: Recent Self Care & Intentions

Hey party people,

Happy Sunday! Something about Sundays is just so relaxing. Maybe it’s just the long time association of Sunday being a “day of rest,” honestly I’m not sure. To me, Sundays tend to be a good day to reflect, clean, and just generally get my life together.

I also really like to emphasize self care on Sundays, which is why I’m beginning this series called Self Care Sunday, where I’ll discuss one aspect of self care each week. This week, since it’s the first, I’m just going to reflect on my own recent efforts in self care and what I could be doing better.

Something I’ve been really emphasizing, as someone who is perpetually busy, is letting myself slow down and not having to cram my days full of useless tasks if I really don’t have much to do. It’s letting myself meditate, light candles, read a book, and essentially just give my body and soul whatever it needs at the time.

Today, for instance, I feel awful. Undecided if it’s allergies or me getting sick, but self care for me means listening to myself. Sure, I could clean the kitchen, change my rat’s bedding, clean my bedroom, do some homework, work on some events for work, etc. Instead, I recognized how awful I was feeling. I took a really hot shower. I drank some tea. I snuggled on the couch with my boyfriend and watched Beauty and the Beast. I’m typing this blog post, and then I’ll probably read a book, watch some Netflix, or take a nap. Do I have things I could be doing immediately? Sure, but I could also do them early tomorrow morning when I’ll hopefully feel better and just let myself have today.

honestly, this is basically what I look like today.  I’m not even sorry.

So that’s my focus for this week. It’s important to love yourself and treat yourself well, and make allowances for yourself. You would tell a friend to take it easy and be kind to themselves, so you should be doing the same for yourself.

Alright, I’m off to start a book (or maybe a new Netflix series). Talk to you soon!



First Time’s a Charm

Hello all, and welcome to my corner of the internet.

I’m Kate. I’m twenty-three, in grad school, and casually trying to find the meaning of life. I like staying busy, talking about the universe (and pop culture), and contemplating the meaning of our existence over a glass of wine or cup of coffee.

Thus, my new project. I’ve come to the realization lately that I’m such an insanely creative person, and the one thing I really enjoy is creating in and of itself. Literally anything, if it’s writing, painting, even cooking, just anything that allows me to be creative and put a little bit more of myself into the world. I thought blogging might be a fun thing to try out, since it’s nothing I’ve ever done before.

Also, I feel like there are not many places to just honestly, openly talk about the struggle of being young, on the post-grad-grind, and trying to figure out what to do with the rest of your life. Everyone I see blogging these days is like, twenty-four and living in beautiful apartments with dogs and world travels, and I totally want to be that person, but I am totally NOT that person yet. So, here we are, and here I am. Let’s chat.

A bit more about me: My name is Kate. I’m twenty-three, living in Connecticut where I went to college. I’m officially a year and a half post-grad. I’m in the process of trying new things, developing my career path, learning how to be the healthiest version of myself, and doing my best to make my role in the world one filled with good energy and creation.  I am here to fearlessly and authentically live life true to who I am and what I enjoy; I care WAY too much about what people think, and I’d like to change that.

So, thank you for being here, for reading, and for hopefully sticking around. Let’s see where this goes.