Today’s post is something I’ve been thinking about a lot lately. I’ve been doing a lot of self work, and in my attempt to be more self aware, I realized I care WAY too much about what other people think. Like, WAY too much. Once I was aware of it, it seemed like every single move I made I was doing with the thought of what everyone would think.
And by everyone, I mean EVERYONE. My best friend, my boyfriend, my instagram followers, my next door neighbor, the people in line behind me at Target, all my facebook friends, the girls I went to high school with whom I haven’t spoken to in years. And you know the worst part? I couldn’t figure out why I cared!
I mean, think about it. Really think about it. What difference does it truly make if a few of your followers think you’re a dork? Or if the girl behind you in Target is prettier than you and makes you feel awkward? What if someone else notices? None of that stuff matters!
And so why do we all care? Is it social media? Is it just that we as humans have an inherent need to be liked and included? Maybe a bit of both? That’s what my money is on. Humans like to belong. We like to feel included. We like to know that we are liked and supported. And no matter how many times you say you don’t care, you do at heart, even a little, because I guarantee you still run decisions by your friends. Why? Because you want them to approve and remain your friends.
Really think about it. Start to notice your own thought process, and you’ll see how many times a day you wonder what the people around you are thinking. And honestly ask yourself why. I know that I want everyone to like me, and I need to get used to the fact that not everyone will. That’s just how life works.
We as a population put way too much stock into what the rest of the world thinks–myself more than most people–but we never really stop to think exactly why it’s important to us, and what would happen if we just stopped noticing.
So, think about that a little. Sit with it. Let it make you uncomfortable, I’ll be back Wednesday, and we can chat about it some more.